We get angry when we do not get our way. To gain power over others, we start yelling, swearing, and threatening. Some even use violence to try to gain power. If you are concerned about getting your way, you will lose focus on what is important. I lose focus of the bigger picture more often than I want to admit. Life is filled with different experiences and you do not want to miss out on the good times. Mindfulness can help you to focus on the bigger picture, so you will not lose control of your anger. Here are some tips that can help you to control your anger.
Find the source
You have to see what triggers your anger. Money and controlling people are examples of triggers. Finding the source may be hard to do. We all have skeletons in the closet. Don’t be afraid of your skeletons. God is in control and powerful. Trust in him. Becoming angry will lead you to sin. You are not accomplishing your goals through anger. Find out what makes you angry and stay in control. You can see the bigger picture once you find the source.
Develop a strategy
Journal your thoughts so you can see why you get angry. Make three columns. If money is your demon, write money in the first column. In the second column, write why you were angry. In the third, write down who you hurt or how you sinned. On a separate piece of paper write a letter to yourself on how you could have done things differently. Use your Bible to search teachings on controlling anger. Talk with family, friends, or Pastor. If you hurt someone, asked for forgiveness. Remember you are not supposed to go to bed angry, so fix your anger problems now.