I am single, so I would be looking for information for people who are single. A found a study in a journal that was conducted to see if people who are lonely feels better when something good happens in their life. Chang et.al (2015) wrote “Thus, for example, we expected that among lonely individuals, those experiencing many positive life events would be less psychologically maladjusted than those experiencing a few positive life events. “ When something good happens, everyone feels better. The study showed it does not matter if something good happens or not, the lonely still becomes depress and suicidal.
I thought about this because I saw on a news report that a growing number of middle age people are committing suicide. I research this further to make sure that the reporter was correct in his findings. This is what I found. Elinson (2014) wrote “Suicide rates for adults aged 45 to 64 rose 40% from 1999 through 2011, according to the most recent data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.” This really hits home for me because I am in my 50’s. I also experience loneliness at some time or another.
Get over It
I found that my faith and writing keeps me going. But for people who are not believers, and for people who have mental illness, what do they do? I am going to make a suggestion that seems mean, but effective. I have to tell myself this every day. Get over it, get out, and do something. I know that you really do not want too, but you have too. I am not saying to not take your mediation, or to do something drastic, but I am that you need to get busy.
Volunteer, take a trip, take a course, visit the grand kids, start a blog, and my list goes on and on. Will this wash away all your problems? No. This will take your mind off of the bad. This will make you look at something else other than yourself. Does this method works all the time. No. This is worth trying because you deserve to live. It sounds lame, but we cannot die because the world needs us. We have to be here to help with the evolution of the world. It is our duty. So stop thinking and start living.
Chang, E. C., Muyan, M., & Hirsch, J. K. (2015). Loneliness, positive life events, and psychological maladjustment: When good things happen, even lonely people feel better. Personality and Individual Differences, 86, 150-155. doi:10.1016/j.paid.2015.06.016
Elinson, Z. (2014, Aug 12). Robin William’s age group at heightened suicide risk; researchers say baby boomers face financial, other challenges. Wall Street Journal (Online) Retrieved from http://search.proquest.com.library.capella.edu/docview/1552710659?accountid=27965